"Why wouldn’t you create a life as nicely as possible?"
Bijgewerkt: 29 nov 2019
I met this incredible woman when she gave me the chance to write for Bedrock Magazine. We met in person after I wrote a few blogs and I was blown away by her positivity, limitless way of thinking and living. She has a strong personality which makes her interesting, always wondering what she will say next. Not only was I intrigued by her (travel) experiences but definitely by her look onto the world and life. I think she is a role model when we talk about self-care. Find out why!
Rosa, I am very curious to your view on self-care after all the inspiring conversations we had. Was there a specific moment in your life when you felt self-care is very important?
“I can’t really point out one specific moment. My parents always supported me to do the things that I truly liked. They gave me the freedom to explore myself and fully supported me in the choices I made. My mom is my biggest inspiration. She is very independent and always taught me: “There is more in life than work and studying, do what makes you happy and what feels good to you.”
“I had a huge realization when I moved from a smaller city to Amsterdam when I started studying. I realized I could now choose who I wanted to spend my time with and how to create my own life. Living in a smaller city not having that choice, was completely different for me. I felt free. It’s funny cause also then a lot of good things came on my path. The law of attraction I think.”
“I have lived in Australia for a few years, that was the point that I got more interested into the meaning of happiness, spirituality and sustainability. I lived in a small beach town, a very spiritual place, with lots of nature, no men in suits or skyscrapers. People live pretty basic there and create their own way of happiness and are more in touch with nature and themselves I felt. I learned that I needed to figure out what happiness means to me.”
What does taking care of yourself mean to you?
“To arrange your life in a way that makes you happy. For me that differs from time to time. So I ask myself frequently questions like: “How do I spend my free time?”, “Is my work making me happy?”, “Who do I spend my time with and how do I feel around them?”. The people that I surround myself with are pretty much like the food that I eat. So I often analyse if the people in my life and the things I do are genuinely matching me. That also includes saying “no” sometimes. I obviously don’t always do that, sometimes you happily make concessions, but in general I stick to what feels right, whatever that may be in that period in my life. In the end that will make my family and friends happy too.”
“I don’t watch TV, series or movies, it doesn’t really inspire me. I don’t see it as something that impacts me in a positive way, so I rather read or go out with my camper van - that I share with mom! - and explore the world (including new places in Holland), meet new people and surround myself with nature instead of devices, although I think I use my phone too much still.”
“I am not a people pleaser. I also cannot imagine ever having a job I don’t like - although I also know no job is 100% perfect. But in the basics I want to learn, feel fulfilled and again: be happy. That may results in me making selfish choices sometimes but it truly feels unnatural not sticking to what feels right. Why wouldn’t you create a life as nicely as possible? I don’t have time for people who drain energy out of me. I’m pretty simple with that.”
What do you do when you feel the need to take care of yourself?
“Those would be moments that I am sad or angry and these moments are luckily always short. First thing I do is to get the emotion out of my system simply cause I can’t hide it. Which means I sometimes yell, swear or stamp with my feet (yes I am a typical Aries). After I will talk to a good friend or my mum. When talking about your emotions your brain starts processing whatever you have to deal with. It works for me.”
“My father died a few years ago, so I do have confronting moments that I miss him. Also then I try to talk with loved ones and try to put it into perspective. I stays hard, but I have accepted it with the help of my mom.”
What is your TCOYS tip to other people?
“There is only one person in this world who can make you happy, that person is you. Decide what happiness means to you and how you want your days to look like. Maybe make a list of your favorite people. Then check what your agenda looks like, are those the people that I see that week? Adjust your agenda in the way that will make you happier.”
“Secondly, accept whatever happens or comes up. In the end you can learn from every situation, also from the ones that might seem hard at first. And maybe most important: focus on the things you are grateful for!”
When Rosa is not travelling and exploring new places, she is a writer and content manager for Bedrock magazine.