This man is my mentor, big example and the reason Take Care of Your Selfie exists. He founded The Present Movement November 2017, I believe(d) in his mission and joined him three months later. We have worked together for 1,5 year, an amazing time full of fun, learnings and growth in many different ways! He made me find the confidence in myself to start my own business. I am grateful that I may call this special one my friend. I am pretty sure his words will inspire you too, enjoy!
Marnix, was there a specific moment in your life when you felt self-care is very important?
"There were several moments to be honest. I’m a slow learner I guess:) In my thirties I was running and scaling-up my own business, partying with the team and friends on a regular basis, therefore I hit the bottom a few times. The most serious one was approximately a year after my break-up. I moved houses twice that year and my business grew rapidly at the same time. I was managing this whole bunch, more and more being ‘hijacked’ by processes and structures rather than creativity and entrepreneurship. It exhausted me so I told my business partners I had to step down for a couple of weeks. These few weeks became months…"
What does taking care of yourself mean to you?
"To me it means now that I can’t force things. It might work for a while, but it takes a lot of energy and I’ve learned am wearing myself out in the long run. My will has always been stronger than my body, and therefore my body doesn’t like that will too much, neither the speed of my mind. I’m teaching myself to slow down, to quiet my mind. I’ve learned that willpower and being smart have nothing to do with simple ‘being’. Let alone with being wise. Also I found new ways to relax myself. Instead of drinking half a bottle of wine after a long day of work, I read, listen to music or I meditate. These habits come in very handy now that we’re in the grip of the corona virus. At the moment it’s all about acceptance, taking good care of ourselves and others, and trying to reflect on what this virus is teaching us."
What do you do when you feel the need to take care of yourself?
"I go to bed! A good night’s sleep makes a huge difference, in particular to my mental health. I go to bed very early anyhow. I like to wake up before the rest of the family (I have a wife and three kids), and love to start my day with one hour of meditation. For me it is a great way to prepare for the day, to feel gratitude for all wonderful people in my life and all other blessings. After my meditation I’m usually in a different state of mind. It takes a lot of practice, and I sometimes still struggle not to lose my mind into crazy thoughts of the ego. It takes a lot of discipline."
"Every morning I have to make the choice between ‘what I need most and what I want now’. It’s a lot easier to stay in bed than to get out and sit up for a while. Just like it is a lot easier to turn on Netflix than to read a good book at night. There is nothing wrong with staying in bed in the morning and doing some serious binge watching once in a while, but when it becomes a habit, you are in fact choosing for ‘losing your consciousness’. You are not aware anymore, you’re lost in distraction."
What is your TCOYS tip to other people?
"TCOOT: Take Care Of Others Too :)"
"We live in a time where a lot of people seem to be a little self-involved. The good thing about the current crisis is that people crave for real connections again, to really see one another. Because of what’s happening right now, a lot of people feel more solidarity. Probably because we’re all in the same boat, this virus doesn’t make exceptions. It looks like people are becoming more conscious of the importance of empathy and compassion. Realizing that in the end we are all the same and that we need to be there for those in need, not only in your own street but across the globe. WE, not me! Taking good care of others will not only heal the world but also yourself. To me this is the very essence of self-care!"
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