"Stop waiting for someone to give you permission"

Bijgewerkt: 29 nov 2019

We had an instant connection at a yoga school in Amsterdam. Maybe because we are both ginger and covered with freckles or the fact we both experienced a burn-out. We definitely clicked because of her open heart and loving energy. She is an amazing poetess; putting her feelings into words. Get to know beauty Charline a little better…

Charline, can you point out a specific moment in your life when you felt self-care is very important?

“That was two years ago, a few days before going to Lowlands (festival). I was at home with my (ex) boyfriend and I didn’t feel very good for quite some time. I worked already less then normally. When he asked me how I felt I started crying and got a panic attack. I was at a bad place but I told myself Lowlands would be great and could bring me joy. I didn’t want to acknowledge that I wasn’t feeling good, so I went anyway.”

“My dad had to pick me up from the festival, I was in a very bad place. One month later (I had responsibilities..) I called in sick from work. I really hoped and waited for someone to tell me I should stay at home, but nobody did, so I pushed myself to go on. I get pretty sad when I think about this! Your mind shouldn't push you into things that you and your body can't handle."

What does taking care of yourself mean to you?

“It means daring to feel and to listen and act upon feelings and emotions. It also means to take a step back when it is needed and to cry when I feel like crying. To share and communicate with the people who are important in my life about how I feel and what is going on in my mind.”

What do you do when you feel the need to take care of yourself?

“My first reaction is to push through, it is like an old habit. But I do recognize this behavior now and I know this is the moment I need to take a step back. I love to be in nature so I go for a walk, do a yoga class or I practice meditation. Also eating healthy, boycotting my phone and making space for my emotions is part of self-care. It is allowing myself that I don’t have to do anything.”

What is your TCOYS tip to other people?

“Don’t wait for anybody to remind you to take care of yourself, you are the only one who knows your limits; set your own boundaries.”

“Spoil yourself once a month with something that you love. I pamper myself with a monthly massage, to allow myself to do nothing for a whole hour. I call it the power of doing nothing. And talking about that, make meditation a part of your daily routine.”

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