Yeremy is that guy you see on the dancefloor and you immediately want to join him. He loves to help out other people, is into spirituality and a sports fan. Very eager to learn and an Aquarius, probably the reason we hit it off from the start. We spoke for hours, I tried to summarize his beautiful words in this interview.
Yeremy, was there a specific moment in your life when you felt self-care is very important?
“At a young age I was interested in spirituality, human behavior, the stars… Therefore, I felt a bit of an outsider. I choose that partly: I never wanted to fit the expectations of others, I always choose my own path and I never followed trends. I didn’t really belong to a group, I was a bit of a stranger and therefore bullied a lot. That made me very insecure and at some points depressed. I tried to be seen by others and to change my behavior sometimes.”
“Looking back now, the bullying really made me stronger and brought me closer to myself. It triggered me to find out why it made me insecure and depressed. I asked myself a lot of questions to find out where these emotions came from and what I could do to process these experiences. I started to understand myself: my way of thinking, my feelings and emotions. By knowing myself, I know how to take care of myself.”
What does taking care of yourself mean to you?
“To listen to your mind, body and soul. If you experience emotions take a look what it wants to tell you, don’t push them away. Try to understand who you are today. Be grateful for the good and change the things that are ready for improvement. Never compare yourself to someone else. My dad thought me to always improve yesterday’s version of myself (and never compare myself with someone else). I believe everything happens for a reason, so I try to flow with it like a tree. A tree is patient and very grounded, they move with the seasons and always stay strong. ”
“Most important things in life I learned from love, break-ups and especially from women itself. The women in my life thought me to be more connected with myself, be observative and to judge less on appearance.”
“Actually, self-care is to enjoy life, doing things that you enjoy (and benefit to your future), it’s a lifestyle!”
What do you do when you feel the need to take care of yourself?
“Self-care became my lifestyle so I do the things I normally do: I always try to learn about myself and life, to meet new people, meditate, read, help others, play football, exercise and I write. Helping others is a really important part for me, it gives me energy and is soul nourishing.”
“Knowing that I always learn from the downs, I embrace and accept them and honestly… Life continues. I use my emotions to write poetry, so I kind of enjoy those days that I don’t feel great!”
What is your TCOYS tip to other people?
Listen to your body and mind. Become conscious of your thoughts and emotions. Go and look for where emotions come from. Work from there and process the things that are bothering you and accept the things that you can’t work on or can’t be changed. If your work isn’t what you want in life, go for something else. If something is in the way, take a look into what that is.”
“Most important: choose yourself and do whatever makes you happy.”
Yeremy is a (spiritual) life coach and personal trainer. Follow his journey on Instagram.